The visible face of BDSM seems to reinforce and eroticize harmful power relationships. But our lived reality is the actual opposite: we expose and dismantle these power relationships and rebuild them fully consensual, negotiated terms.Read More
A list of thoughts that come to me because I am sober now.Read More
BDSM has its critics, and they have convincing arguments. However, most of them do not hold up to the lived experience and scientific evidence about kinksters. Here, I begin the development of a positive theory of BDSM.Read More
Marriage is fine if you want to enter into it, but it should not be recognized by the state nor serve as a method to access unfair benefits. Also, it’s really not fair for non-hetero, non-cis, non-monogamous people.Read More
In this post, I take a look at men’s sexuality, prompted by reading a book by a well-known sex writer and therapist. Are men being feminized, or are we misunderstanding the nature of the repressive discourse around men’s sexuality?Read More
Hi! I'm Ani: a kinky feminist, chronic oversharer, essayist and eternal student.
I believe that telling our stories is a powerful act that lets us connect to each other.
These are my stories about relationships, sex, kink, psychology, life... pretty much everything.
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