Can kink ever be ethical? Are those who engage in it unwittingly reinforce patterns and excuses for abuse? How do we untangle this mess?Read More
The visible face of BDSM seems to reinforce and eroticize harmful power relationships. But our lived reality is the actual opposite: we expose and dismantle these power relationships and rebuild them fully consensual, negotiated terms.Read More
BDSM has its critics, and they have convincing arguments. However, most of them do not hold up to the lived experience and scientific evidence about kinksters. Here, I begin the development of a positive theory of BDSM.Read More
Questions of identity and kink aren’t always easy. They demand some self-knowledge and...Read More
Hi! I'm Ani: a kinky feminist, chronic oversharer, essayist and eternal student.
I believe that telling our stories is a powerful act that lets us connect to each other.
These are my stories about relationships, sex, kink, psychology, life... pretty much everything.
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