Is kink becoming vanilla? In the last 30 years, BDSM has lost its mystique, along with its revolutionary potential. Making something ordinary means making it safe for mass consumption. What have we lost?Read More
The visible face of BDSM seems to reinforce and eroticize harmful power relationships. But our lived reality is the actual opposite: we expose and dismantle these power relationships and rebuild them fully consensual, negotiated terms.Read More
A list of thoughts that come to me because I am sober now.Read More
Hi! I'm Ani: a kinky feminist, chronic oversharer, essayist and eternal student.
I believe that telling our stories is a powerful act that lets us connect to each other.
These are my stories about relationships, sex, kink, psychology, life... pretty much everything.
Thoughts? Feelings? Words to tell me?Send me an email