BDSM has its critics, and they have convincing arguments. However, most of them do not hold up to the lived experience and scientific evidence about kinksters. Here, I begin the development of a positive theory of BDSM.Read More
In this post, I take a look at men’s sexuality, prompted by reading a book by a well-known sex writer and therapist. Are men being feminized, or are we misunderstanding the nature of the repressive discourse around men’s sexuality?Read More
Oral sex? Non merci. It’s not my thing, and I’m tired of being told I’m broken because of it.Read More
Hi! I'm Ani: a kinky feminist, chronic oversharer, essayist and eternal student.
I believe that telling our stories is a powerful act that lets us connect to each other.
These are my stories about relationships, sex, kink, psychology, life... pretty much everything.
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